This is bean! Who, amazingly, has a beating heart. I am in love. How did this happen after that rocky beta number? Who knows. I wish I had never done beta no. 3. But wow! I am so grateful for today.
Wednesday, 16 December 2015
6w3d, another miracle!
This is bean! Who, amazingly, has a beating heart. I am in love. How did this happen after that rocky beta number? Who knows. I wish I had never done beta no. 3. But wow! I am so grateful for today.
Sunday, 6 December 2015
IVF # 15....beta hell again
IVF # 15 was our best cycle for a long time. We transferred 3 perfect morulas and one straggler on day 4, and I was not too surprised when the first beta came back positive. At 11dp4dt it was not a huge number, 148, but pretty solid, and when beta number 2 shot up to 395 in 48 hours I thought things were going great. Then Mic persuaded me to go and do another beta yesterday, and I really wish I hadn't now. It went up to 906 72 hours later, giving a doubling time of 60.5 hours. I cried and cried yesterday, more than I have for a long time. But as usual, I have pulled myself together and am channelling as much zen as I can. I'm trying to let go of what never belonged to me and accept whatever circumstances life brings as fleeting.
And yes, I know that anything up to a 72 hour doubling time is considered normal. But it's impossible not to compare it to my last transfer cycle, where my initial beta doubled actually twice within the first 2 48-hour periods and then slowed down dramatically, eventually resulting in miscarriage. So I am expecting nothing. I don't think will do any more betas unless I get bleeding, but I'll wait until Wednesday (3 days from now) for the ultrasound, when I should be 5w3d.
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Update...still nothing. It's Tuesday now, the day before my ultrasound, and I feel, precisely nothing. Touch wood, no bleeding or cramps, and my boobs are still pretty huge. But no twinges, just no signs one way or the other. I am calm and ready for an answer. Just hope I get one tomorrow and am not plunged into more uncertainty.
Incidentally, I have been thinking that after so many cycles, I should really have something profound to say about dealing with disappointment/uncertainty/infertility....you know, like if someone came and asked me to do a TED talk, I should have an idea worth sharing. Can't for the life of me think what it would be though. If I have a flash of inspiration I will write a special post, to be sure!
And yes, I know that anything up to a 72 hour doubling time is considered normal. But it's impossible not to compare it to my last transfer cycle, where my initial beta doubled actually twice within the first 2 48-hour periods and then slowed down dramatically, eventually resulting in miscarriage. So I am expecting nothing. I don't think will do any more betas unless I get bleeding, but I'll wait until Wednesday (3 days from now) for the ultrasound, when I should be 5w3d.
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Update...still nothing. It's Tuesday now, the day before my ultrasound, and I feel, precisely nothing. Touch wood, no bleeding or cramps, and my boobs are still pretty huge. But no twinges, just no signs one way or the other. I am calm and ready for an answer. Just hope I get one tomorrow and am not plunged into more uncertainty.
Incidentally, I have been thinking that after so many cycles, I should really have something profound to say about dealing with disappointment/uncertainty/infertility....you know, like if someone came and asked me to do a TED talk, I should have an idea worth sharing. Can't for the life of me think what it would be though. If I have a flash of inspiration I will write a special post, to be sure!
Sunday, 27 September 2015
Fourteen IVFs and an FET = no emotion left!
We're in the middle of fresh IVF number 14, and just got the fert report - out of 7 eggs retrieved, only 3 were mature and only 1 fertilized. I am such a realist and invest so little into it emotionally that I don't even get nervous for the fert report any more and have prepared myself for numbers like that before I get them. The only thing I do after this kind of result is go and check out some more "raising an only child" blogs, to try to stay at peace with our decision that we will take project sibling no further after our sperm is used up. I do have doubts, definitely, but they are pretty fleeting.
Mic has raised the possibility of him going back on hormone injections to try to get some more sperm, but I am really against it. I will be 40 in 3 months and it's clear that my egg quality and quantity is nosediving as well. I can't imagine going through this again another 7 or 8 times and having only empty pockets and heartache to show for it. We need to be the best parents we can to our miracle boy and that means having the energy and enough fun in us to raise him.
Meantime I am considering a last-ditch detox fasting exercising type thing to try and shunt my aging eggs on to a few last cycles (3 more max). I know, I am basically writing off this one before it's over, but it is the only coping mechanism that works for me.
Mic has raised the possibility of him going back on hormone injections to try to get some more sperm, but I am really against it. I will be 40 in 3 months and it's clear that my egg quality and quantity is nosediving as well. I can't imagine going through this again another 7 or 8 times and having only empty pockets and heartache to show for it. We need to be the best parents we can to our miracle boy and that means having the energy and enough fun in us to raise him.
Meantime I am considering a last-ditch detox fasting exercising type thing to try and shunt my aging eggs on to a few last cycles (3 more max). I know, I am basically writing off this one before it's over, but it is the only coping mechanism that works for me.
Sunday, 3 May 2015
Waiting for miscarriage
Ultrasound today: nothing left. It's all over. Can I please ask the universe for a natural miscarriage? So far nothing, nada, no cramps, no hint.
Friday, 1 May 2015
Recap
Ok. I am going to write a post with no feelings in it. I just need to get the facts down so I don't forget them.
Wednesday 29th April (according to RE, 5w2d. But according to ticker, 5w4d. And according to due date calulator, 5w3d. How do I know which one is correct?): I went for another ultrasound. The gestational sac had grown and was measuring 5w2d, so just about the right size. Impossible to tell if there was anything in the sac. Some kind of shadow which could have been yolk sac but could also have been just a fuzzy u/s pic. RE had put me on luterone (it's a PIO depot so it releases gradually and you take it once a week) the previous Sunday, and said I could come back next Sunday to get another shot and do another u/s. I'm also on oral progesterone (duphaston) 4 times a day. Plus, even though my RE said to stop the crinone since I took luterone, I have been taking one at night. Spotting has pretty much stopped. No cramps.
Thursday 30th: Nothing in the morning, no spotting, nothing. In the afternoon I had some AF-type cramps, and in the evening the spotting started again, just a little, brown. But cramps went away.
Today, Friday 1st May. Nothing in the morning except a little brown spotting. Around 2:30 in the afternoon I had my first bright red blood and cramps. It was just a little bit, and again after about 20 minutes it all disappeared. Pinkish discharge returned in the evening, no cramps but a couple of little stabbing pains.
P.S. I just changed my ticker. After checking out loads of them, each calculates it a little differently but the majority had me at 5w6d. One said 5w5d and my previous one said 6w0d. So I think now my ticker is just one day ahead of what my RE says.
Wednesday 29th April (according to RE, 5w2d. But according to ticker, 5w4d. And according to due date calulator, 5w3d. How do I know which one is correct?): I went for another ultrasound. The gestational sac had grown and was measuring 5w2d, so just about the right size. Impossible to tell if there was anything in the sac. Some kind of shadow which could have been yolk sac but could also have been just a fuzzy u/s pic. RE had put me on luterone (it's a PIO depot so it releases gradually and you take it once a week) the previous Sunday, and said I could come back next Sunday to get another shot and do another u/s. I'm also on oral progesterone (duphaston) 4 times a day. Plus, even though my RE said to stop the crinone since I took luterone, I have been taking one at night. Spotting has pretty much stopped. No cramps.
Thursday 30th: Nothing in the morning, no spotting, nothing. In the afternoon I had some AF-type cramps, and in the evening the spotting started again, just a little, brown. But cramps went away.
Today, Friday 1st May. Nothing in the morning except a little brown spotting. Around 2:30 in the afternoon I had my first bright red blood and cramps. It was just a little bit, and again after about 20 minutes it all disappeared. Pinkish discharge returned in the evening, no cramps but a couple of little stabbing pains.
P.S. I just changed my ticker. After checking out loads of them, each calculates it a little differently but the majority had me at 5w6d. One said 5w5d and my previous one said 6w0d. So I think now my ticker is just one day ahead of what my RE says.
Tuesday, 28 April 2015
It doesn't look good
I can't even muster the energy to write a proper post about what has been going on. I have updated the "story so far" page with all the details. But briefly, I have had some bleeding (pink and brown, not fresh blood) and my betas have slowed down a lot. I had an ultrasound at 20dp2dt (5 weeks? 5 weeks 1 day? Something like that) and the RE found a tiny, tiny, possible gestational sac but nothing more, which is why she got me to go and do another beta. The doubling time slowed down to 90 hours then, and today I did another beta, which is still rising but with a doubling time of 99 hours.
I am 99.9999999% sure this pregnancy is not viable. But it's killing me to keep waiting and keep taking the luteal support (which could be artificially propping up the beta number). I begged my RE for another u/s and she said I could come in tomorrow.
That is all. I am trying, and failing, to keep my mind off it and keep busy.
I am 99.9999999% sure this pregnancy is not viable. But it's killing me to keep waiting and keep taking the luteal support (which could be artificially propping up the beta number). I begged my RE for another u/s and she said I could come in tomorrow.
That is all. I am trying, and failing, to keep my mind off it and keep busy.
Monday, 20 April 2015
Lucky number 13...
Sooooooooooooo. How can I put this?
Let's start from the day after my last post. I started with a terrible sore throat the day before transfer, so I showed up to ET feeling ill and depressed with the poor fertilization. They told me that overnight another one had fertilized, so we had one 4-cell and one 6-cell. 6 cells on day 2 is pretty weird, embryos should be 2-4 cells by then and after doing a bit of googling it seemed like a really fast-growing embryo might have chromosomal problems. Anyway, back they went.
Then my little boy got ill and I took him over the border with a high fever and an eye infection. Day by day I got worse as well, got the same sinus infection as my son which made my eyes swell up, and ended up with a bronchial cough. I assumed there was no way an embryo could survive through all that and so honestly didn't give the 2ww much of a thought.
Fast forward to April 18 (2 days ago) and I went for the beta, preparing myself as usual for the same old result. More than 2 hours later still no result, so I called the lab. They have never volunteered a result over the phone before so I was expecting just to remind them to send it to me. The young man on the other end of the phone said, "ok, just hold on a moment.....111." It didn't even register for a few seconds, and then I just said "Are you serious?" Fast forward again, through the bit where I never received the result by email and ended up phoning another branch of the same lab, who read me out an old result which was negative - heart on ground moment - but I eventually got the correct result on paper! And today was Beta no. 2, which was 286.
I can hardly believe we have been given another miracle. It's so early of course, anything could happen, but the beta numbers are encouraging for 12dp2dt and 14dp2dt.
I haven't even POAS yet, still. I actually forgot to buy pee sticks both yesterday and today, which is just bizarre. But since I have to wait until May 2nd for an u/s I think I will stock up to keep reassured every few days.
Today, internet, I am pregnant!
Let's start from the day after my last post. I started with a terrible sore throat the day before transfer, so I showed up to ET feeling ill and depressed with the poor fertilization. They told me that overnight another one had fertilized, so we had one 4-cell and one 6-cell. 6 cells on day 2 is pretty weird, embryos should be 2-4 cells by then and after doing a bit of googling it seemed like a really fast-growing embryo might have chromosomal problems. Anyway, back they went.
Then my little boy got ill and I took him over the border with a high fever and an eye infection. Day by day I got worse as well, got the same sinus infection as my son which made my eyes swell up, and ended up with a bronchial cough. I assumed there was no way an embryo could survive through all that and so honestly didn't give the 2ww much of a thought.
Fast forward to April 18 (2 days ago) and I went for the beta, preparing myself as usual for the same old result. More than 2 hours later still no result, so I called the lab. They have never volunteered a result over the phone before so I was expecting just to remind them to send it to me. The young man on the other end of the phone said, "ok, just hold on a moment.....111." It didn't even register for a few seconds, and then I just said "Are you serious?" Fast forward again, through the bit where I never received the result by email and ended up phoning another branch of the same lab, who read me out an old result which was negative - heart on ground moment - but I eventually got the correct result on paper! And today was Beta no. 2, which was 286.
I can hardly believe we have been given another miracle. It's so early of course, anything could happen, but the beta numbers are encouraging for 12dp2dt and 14dp2dt.
I haven't even POAS yet, still. I actually forgot to buy pee sticks both yesterday and today, which is just bizarre. But since I have to wait until May 2nd for an u/s I think I will stock up to keep reassured every few days.
Today, internet, I am pregnant!
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